Aiden Howarth: Poet, Dedicated Father and Game Changer - Page 3
Q: 'The Fairytale You Had Wished For' feels like it is warning us of forcing ourselves to be in idealistic relationships. Sometimes we try so hard to create what we need with someone because we really believe they are "the one" when in reality it may not be meant to be. What period of your life was that about or where you relaying someone else's story?
A: This stemmed, again, from a relationship. In fact, all relationships. Women, and I guess men too, believe and want THEIR relationship to be the one anyone could ever have. They have dreams, goals, aspirations. Everything is so idealistic. Just like a fairytale. When in reality, a fairytale could not be further from the truth of what it is we live. Fairytales are given to us as children as fantasy. They portray a happy ending every single time. It's when you learn that a happy ending comes few and far between in love, that you realize a small part of yourself has died. This poem was written as almost a letter to the other person. Stressing my angst at our failings and pointing out that none of us did anything wrong, it's that we believed too much that we were the fairytale we saw as children. Finding out that we could not live the way we hoped (be it problem free and with a happy ending) I end that poem with the stark reality of what believing in the fairytale of life will do to us all....
Taken by the hand and misled int the arms of hurt.
The fairytale that you had wished for?
Q: 'Be Still My Heart' could be about love that is not returned or one person feeling something the other doesn't quite feel. Is it about a specific time in your life? Do you think most of us have to go through relationships or feelings like this before we find the "right" one?
A: This poem is about falling in love. The passion. The want to feel that ache of needing someone so badly that it hurts. But, as is my usual style, there's a problem. Its' a poem about falling in love with someone you cannot have or be with. Falling in love with someone who loves you too but life has put you both on very separate paths. I wrote this one quite recently, be it a year ago I think. It's not in my fave poem section but its nice that you would choose it to ask questions about as since, I've gone back and re-read it and I'm put straight back in the room I was when I felt those things. It's funny how life treats us so unfairly in love but how it seems to work out better in the end. I think. Ha ha. I still remember that person and I always will.Continued on the next page