Rihanna And Chris Brown Back Together - Page 3
After Brown's parents divorced, his mother remarried and Hawkins became his stepfather. Brown has spoken about a history of abuse in his family involving Hawkins, telling Giant magazine last year:"He used to hit my mom. ... He made me terrified all the time. I remember one night he made her nose bleed. I was crying and thinking, 'I'm just gonna go crazy on him one day.' ... I hate him to this day."
"There was a lot of arguing between his mom and I," Hawkins said. "I never raised a hand at his mom. [Brown's mother and I] argued frequently. ... As far as physical abuse, there was no physical abuse," adding, "I spanked Chris one time."
"I became the bad guy," he continued. "Chris was really mad at his mom for leaving his dad, so I became the scapegoat. No matter how much I tried to be a father figure, nothing worked."
And Chris obviously had some anger issues even as a kid:
In that interview, Brown described how, at age 11, he vowed to his mother that he would be in jail by age 15 for killing his abusive stepfather. "I'm gonna take a baseball bat one day while you at work, and I'm gonna kill him," he said.
But here's the thing...it doesn't matter where you come from, just where you are going. Seeing as how this might not be the first time this has happened (just the first time he got caught), there is already a pattern there of abusive behavior. It has been said many, many times that if he abuses you once, he will abuse you again. And that is true. There is NO EXCUSE FOR ABUSE. That's why it concerns me that Rihanna would go back to him after this. Just in case you forgot, here's what she looked like after Chris got done using her as a punching bag.
But while I'm definitely not excusing what he did, I realize Chris is young. He can still learn to break the cycle, if he will make up his mind to do so and not look back. However, that will not be a quick fix; that takes time, counseling, lots of introspection and learning new behavior patterns to replace the old ones, and learning not to justify his horrific actions. It is not something that is going to happen in a month. It takes TIME, which is exactly what isn't happening here. On the contrary, things are moving pretty fast, and that concerns me.
And let's face it...sometimes, all the help and counseling and support in the world isn't enough to change an abusive person. Our jails and prisons are full of people like that. In this case, I don't think Chris will see any jail time...he's all cute and famous and stuff. He'll probably get a slap on the wrist and some community service.
Now, having said all that, just in case you think I went all soft and mushy...if I were close to Rihanna, I would advise her to not get back into a relationship with Chris. I'd tell her to let him deal with whatever he has to deal with on his own. Man up, so to speak. Who knows, with some space she just might decide that he isn't worth her time, because there is NO REASON for abuse. I just don't think there has been enough time and distance yet for her to gain any perspective and see this for what it was...an incident of horrific physical abuse from a person who supposedly loves her. Frankly, I just don't have a good feeling, and I'm worried that it just might happen again.
Actions speak louder than words, Chris, and your actions are talking so loud that we can't hear what you are saying.
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