Communicating Without Speaking
We have been married little over 5 years now, my husband and I, and even though our relationship has been growing and getting better and better from day one I had noticed that something was missing in our communication. At first I thought the feeling would go away but it didn’t and in time I got more and more frustrated with it. Then, by an absolute accident we found the solution to my problem.
He has always had a bit of a fascination for the Japanese culture, even tried to get me to read Klavel’s Shogun but failed. Last December, for his birthday, a friend from work got him a Tibetan Singing Bowl. Granted Japan is as far from Tibet as Canada is from Mexico but somehow he got very excited about this new toy and started playing with it and researching the internet to know more about it.
In about a week or so this singing bowl was all he would speak about and he kept playing it and urging me to stay and listen to it too. I myself wasn’t very fond of the noise so at first I would just go in another room when he played it but this time I agreed and sat down with him. We both closed our eyes and he started playing.
At first I wasn’t all that impressed and my mind was wondering over what I had been doing that day but little by little I started thinking about how found I was over the five years I had spent with Jim and how sweet he was when he got so over excited about something. I was just thinking how much I loved him and wondering if he really knew when I felt that all my love was dancing to the sound of the Tibetan Singing Bowl and it started to feel almost as a real physical presence, like a funnel connecting the both of us and it was in that moment that I realized he was feeling the same thing.
When he opened his eyes he was looking at me with this strange curious intensity and asked me “What were you doing?” But I hadn’t been doing anything except that the connection I had always dreamed of was there and then and it seemed like it had been there forever.