The Fur Files - A Fondness For Females, To Swing Or Not To Swing, Won't Date Whitey
Madame Floretta “Fern” De Villiers, a.k.a. “Amanda Fox” is an author of erotic fiction and commentary. This is her weekly advice column.
Friday, October 15th, 2010.
I’m a happily married woman who has been with the same man for more than a decade. The thing is, over the past couple of years, I’ve found myself becoming more and more interested in women, and I’m not talking about wondering where they got their hair done or where they bought their shoes. I’ve never done anything sexually, but I think I might like to try it. I love my husband very much and I would never want to hurt him, thus I am feeling guilty about my desires. What should I do?
Curious about Crossing the Border
“Guilty” is for axe-murderers and pedophiles. Besides, you haven’t even done anything yet, so relax. As for your burgeoning desires, it wouldn’t matter who or what you wanted to do something with – woman, man, clown, judge, dog, or horse – assuming you got married under conventional pretenses AND assuming you don’t want to live a life based on lies, then exploring your sexuality outside of being with your husband is an issue you need to address first.
You do realize however that it IS possible to incorporate fantasies of this nature into your marriage without actually sleeping with another person? Throw a DVD in the machine and let the fun begin. Geez, there are only about a billion movies out there with woman-on-woman action – say, “Lesbian Love” or “My Lesbian Babes”.
Now, if the illusory act doesn’t do it for you and you absolutely MUST tame a tiger, then you’re just going to have to talk it over with your hubby. Somehow though, I don’t think he’s going to mind.
In fact, I imagine the conversation going something like this –
“Yes, Sweetcakes. What is it?”
“I think I’d like to try getting it on with another woman.”
“You mean sex?”
“Would you mind?”
“Can I watch?”
“I don’t see why not.”
“Great. When do we get started?”
Now, if it were another man you were interested in sleeping with, well that would be a whole different ballgame. For another nine innings, read on...