How to Golf With Your Spouse
I listened to an interesting radio show hosted by Patricia Hannigan of Golf Girl's Diary about golfing with your spouse. It was great to hear a woman's perspective on golfing for the first time or golfing with a man who is an avid golfer. It's something I never had to think about, until now.
Recently engaged and not wanting my golf addiction to slowly die, I thought it best to introduce my fiance to the game. Let me be clear: I'm not looking for AJ (my fiance) to become my regular weekend playing partner (sorry AJ), but it might be a fun date night activity, "Nine & Dine." If I want to play golf on my honeymoon, it might be best if she can play too. <--- That's the line that will get me in trouble.
A Few of Her Concerns
- I'm not good enough. Golf is a funny sport. We come home and talk about the great shots we had. The chip we just missed. The 9-iron we "stuck." The 35-foot putt we made. What you don't hear us say is the chip was to save par and, although it missed, we had 15 feet left for bogey. The 9-iron we "stuck," it was 8 feet from the pin and the 35-foot putt we made, it was for triple bogey. Millions of people golf and approximately 30% of all golfers break 100. You don't need to be great at golf — just enjoy it and keep the pace moving.
- I'll embarrass myself. As a goalie in my hockey playing days, I played in front of thousands of fans on any given night. The nerves on the first tee of every round are far worse than any time I was ever in the pipes. Every golfer at some point has topped his tee shot or snap-hooked into the woods. We have all hit trees, all lose golf balls, and a variety of other "embarrassing" things. It's part of the game and a big one if you're just learning.
- I won't like it. It's a possibility. When I asked AJ about playing golf, she thought she could be bored or might not be able to focus for 18 holes. It's hard for any golfer to focus through 18 holes. This is golf, and that's part of the challenge. Don't force it. Start out at the driving range followed by 9 holes or a par 3 course. If you don't like it after a few times, that's ok; at least you gave it a shot.