Censoring the News for Children's Sake - Page 2
My distraction method worked great for a while, but when she entered prepubescence and was watching more television and using the computer, the questions became more complicated and not so easy to not make a big deal about. Asking me if people were gay seemed to be a concern for her, and at that point it became necessary to explain sex and people’s choices.
The most valuable thing I learned was that what I said would form her attitudes and bias about a whole range of life’s issues and to choose my words carefully.
That lesson came in handy on Sept. 11, 2001 as disaster struck the Trade Center my daughter was in class and her teacher rolled a TV into her classroom so they could watch history unfold.
When they dismissed school early and she came running through the front door, her first question was, "are the people that committed suicide by jumping from the building going to hell"? I was paralyzed, first of all I wish I could have had a say whether my child watched the horrific events unfold history or not. Secondly the religious implications and the thought of being eternally punished for jumping off a building when faced with the choice of burning to death was something I never thought of, yet here I was struggling, looking for the right words that would comfort but not mislead. “No” I stated emphatically, the God we love would never do such a thing. At the time she seemed to except that answer and went on about her afternoon.
To all the mothers answering those difficult questions, It’s up to you what your child can handle and what age they can handle it. Let’s face it no one knows your children like you do. If the world is moving too fast and the subject matter is too deep, use all your acquired mommy skills and do what is best for your family. Remember our children are on loan from GOD raising them well is our most important mission.