Life After Death - Page 2
Loss is never easy. There is nothing worse than losing a loved one before you are ready. But it will happen to all of us. It is how we choose to deal with that loss that will determine how we move forward. By desperately searching for a miracle when the inevitable is your loved one will not be around much longer can leave you empty and remembering the way they were in their last days. I suggest a different approach. One that will be much harder at first but will help you remember them in the way you want to.
Gather your immediate family together for an afternoon or evening. Find as many home videos and photos as you possibly can before everyone is to come over. Cook some of the loved ones favorite foods and drinks. And when everyone arrives, celebrate his or her life. Share stories with each other about your favorite time with them. Some of your most precious memories. Things that they did that shows what kind of character they were and what affect they had on your life. Celebrate. I promise you will cry hard but you will all be there for each other. IT will be a hard night but the most important thing to remember and make sure that everyone there remembers is that the last thing on earth the person you lost would want, would be for you to wander around in constant sorrow. They want you to laugh, not cry. To look forward and not dwell. To live in honor of them since they can no longer be we with us. To make the most of your life and pursue your dreams. Live.
There is a great scene dealing with loss at the end of Tombstone with Doc Holiday (Val Kilmer) dying while he talks to Wyatt Earp (Kurt Russell). Right before Wyatt leaves Doc asks him to “Live Wyatt, live for me.” I invite you all who suffer tremendous loss to do the same. It is what they would have wanted. Live.