Signs Your Marriage May Need Outside Help
How do you know when you should seek outside help for your marriage? No one's marriage dissolves overnight. There are definitely some warning says to pay attention that can signal the need for assistance. Some people don't recognize their marriage is in trouble. Other people don't want to admit their relationship is struggling. It is important to learn to recognize relationship warning signs.
If you and your spouse have heated disputes that seem to be getting worse, consider getting some help. Not being able to resolve conflict in a healthy way can set the tone for the relationship and create many ongoing problems. It is important to learn how to resolve problems without becoming aggressive, resentful, or vengeful. If you keep having the same argument about the same thing, also consider getting some help. Doing the same thing over and over again won't resolve the problem and conflict may get worse.
The absence of conflict may be another warning sign that your marriage is in trouble. Couples who have given up completely, sometimes stop arguing. The attitude of "why bother" seems to develop and people quit caring enough to try and get their needs met anymore. Sometimes the marriages that are in the most danger are the ones where people behave very polite to one another and they don't ever share their real feelings. If you can't tell your partner you feel angry or your feelings are hurt, clearly there is a breakdown in the relationship.
If you find yourself becoming stressed by your relationship to the point that you are losing sleep or becoming physically ill, it is certainly time to seek help. Stress can cause physical health problems such as frequent headaches and stomach aches. People may also have difficulty sleeping due to worrying about the relationship or due to intense emotions that make it hard to relax. Once your physical health becomes impacted, it becomes more difficulty to think clearly and make healthy decisions in your marriage.
Lack of physical affection may be another sign that your marriage is struggling. Lack of desire to hug, kiss, hold hands, or become sexually active, is problematic for any marriage. There may be many reasons that cause lack of physical contact, such as physical health problems, but the issue will likely affect both partners. Sometimes unresolved anger or emotional distance creates a lack of physical intimacy as well.Continued on the next page