Stay at Home Moms vs. Working Moms
It’s the endless debate…working mom or stay at home mom? Whatever your situation, you’ve probably found yourself being defensive about your position at one time or another. Whether it’s your mother who “didn’t try and have everything” in her day or your best friend “who would go mad if she was just a housewife”, every woman feels insecure about their life choices at some point.Ultimately, the decision to return to paid work is a very personal one and will be different from family to family. There are family and personal benefits to staying at home as there are to going back to work. However as women (unlike most men), we tend to be ultra sensitive to our choices. We might read too much into other people’s comments, feel guilty about leaving the kids, feel guilty about not contributing financially or just think the grass might be greener.
But surely in this day of technology, our lives should not be defined by only two choices. Perhaps women should stop wasting time feeling guilty about their choices or denigrating others for theirs and start putting their energies into helping each other find flexible employment? Options which allow them to take care of their families and their finances!Many women are simply not able to work standard full-time hours. At the same time, many businesses need extra resources but cannot afford the crippling overheads of a permanent, full-time member of staff.
Flexible working arrangements usually means anything that is not the standard 9-5 job. This might include part-time, contract, free-lance, job-share and “work from home” opportunities.Benefits to employers include reduced overheads, highly skilled, committed workers and the ability to respond to the peaks and troughs of the business cycle.
What Can You Do to Help?
- Do your research. Investigate flexible working arrangements that might work for you and put a business case together for your present, past or prospective employer.
- If you are a business owner or manager, think about flexible employment options when making your own appointments. Could the role be split into a job share or performed predominantly from home?
- Think outside the box – perhaps you could offer your skills as an independent consultant or set up your own business?
- Check out great resources on the internet.
- Network and support other women – we are all on the same side after-all.