A vein attempt to ditch the flannel - Page 2
But I do live with a tough crowd, nanny aside. My middle child, Zoe, refers to my laugh lines as those “cracks on mommy’s face”. She advises her little sister, Zeta, that “you have to use sunscreen or you’ll get cracks like Mommy’s”. Zeta, for her part, often pats my relatively flat tummy after a big meal asking, “Mommy, is there a baby in there?” Sheesh. It puzzles me about where they get the imagine-driven comments they make;. Celebrity and fashion magazines have been banned in our house since before they could coo “ABC”. Even my husband, lately, seems to qualify his compliments. “Honey, you always look good ... to me. “
The "river" of denial...
I can take it. I’m tough. It is good practice for me to let it roll off my back. I’m hoping to benefit from it when they are 13 and not so gentle with their barbs and jabs. Recently, though, on a particularly "up" day I was feeling like I was in fairly good shape: positive attitude, hair coiffed, legs shaved (man, now that I think about it, it really was a banner day). I was wearing a cute, yellow sundress I’d bought from a boutique in town, my little my 6-year-old cuddler was clinging to my right leg while we both waited for the checkout line at the grocery store to inch forward. Since Zeta is weaning herself slowly from her Lovey Bear, she seemed to be enjoying a “close with Mommy” moment. I felt her little plump fingers tickling and gently poking at my smooth legs, her right thumb stuffed firmly into her mouth. (We’ll wean one habit at a time, thank you). I was thinking she must like how smooth and sleek my legs were, having just read somewhere that as kids give up one lovey device they often need something else to stroke or rub as it soothes their anxiety.
Then the little darling pops out with this:
“Mommy! I traced this line all the way up your leg …it’s like a big river.”
That river of which my child speaks is a huge vein that did not exist prior to her birth! I didn’t say this out loud but I screamed it in my head. (Note: Aforementioned nanny also pointed this out to me just weeks after Zeta was born. But seriously that’s not why she’s the former nanny. No really it isn’t.)Continued on the next page