Happiness is a State, Not a Location
One day, I was
Four weeks later, I
was driving my husband to the airport so he could start his new job in
When my husband
accepted a position at one of
Strike that. I was
DYING for an adventure! So I threw myself whole-heartedly into the idea of
living in the
But settling was hard. Living in a city with a toddler was tough. Not having a car or being able to open a bank account on my own was frustrating. I couldn’t find maple syrup or frozen waffles and that sucked. Nothing made sense!
I must have wept
daily once the jet lag and shock wore off and day-to-day life began. Then,
eventually, I started to figure things out. I bought a map, made some friends, and fell in
As soon as I did, the economic meltdown which brought the world to its knees also curtailed our adventure. A lapse in funding led to the termination of our work/companion visas, and before anything could be done about it, my husband had already accepted his next job in the Bay Area.
Again, it was an offer we couldn’t refuse. Again, we had less than a month to pack up and move. Then in the midst of it all, I realized I was pregnant with our second child.
Settling into our
new life in
I spent my days isolated and alone with two children- no friends, no family, and no help- in a town where the biggest news was the opening of a new Target.
It wasn’t even a Super Target, just a normal one. Stab me with a fork!
All I could think
about what how much I missed living in
Why did we have
As I was pouring out
all of this and more over Skype to a dear friend and fellow American expat
still living in the
I laughed out loud,
because that was exactly what I needed to hear. I missed Target too when I
I think we made the most of our situation, but looking back I wish I had spent even more time enjoying it.
So the next day, I bought a map, made some friends, and it may be early to tell… but I think I just may like Silicon Valley after all.
Ultimately, the choice isn’t where to live. It’s whether or not to be happy.
This is an original post to Silicon Valley Moms Blog.
You can read all about Grace Duffy’s adventures and missteps overseas in excoriating details at .
.These days, you can find her at her personal blog, Formerly Gracie, or you can follow her on Twitter @graceduffy.