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Want to Look Like a Barbie Doll? Guys, do You Want to Partner With Barbie? - Page 4

Author: Carole Di Tosti.
Published: May 01, 2012 at 3:42 pm

Or am I missing something?  If an obese, overweight Barbie would sell, the company would make and market such dolls? Or is it the other way around, a chicken/egg which came first syndrome?

Regardless, of how much women complain about being held up to this ridiculous  standard, cosmetic surgeons are making a bundle helping women achieve a less real and more Barbie doll-like appearance: large breasts, teeny weeny waist (rib removal often necessary) younger appearance, enhanced lips, perfected nose, firmer legs and abdomen, etc. Women, unhappy with their natural appearance, if they are in the media, or in corporate America or in a position of power have most likely been compelled to alter their looks to get where they are.

The tragedy is that those who are not in those careers also feel compelled to alter their appearance. Gleefully waiting for their next victim of predation, the multi-billion dollar fitness and weight loss industries (including surgical procedures like gastric by-pass and lap-band to force weight loss medically) help the wannabes who often become cosmetic surgery recidivists attempt to achieve their dreams, For their efforts these industries are wallowing in profitability. And oh, to be slender! Most likely at some point this year, 90% of the women (between ages 13 and up) in the nation will be dieting or thinking about dieting to to get into a smaller dress size or because they finally got the courage to leap on a scale. Clothing stores know how appearance obsessed women are and have installed mirrors which distort women's real bodies, slimming them down. The fashion industry and clothing manufacturers have cleverly skewed numerical sizes from what they were thirty-five years ago when a junior 3/4 was a small size. Now, if you can wear a size 0 or 1, you have achieved Nirvana, and in some cases, death

So the paradox of dealing with rising obesity rates in a culture that finds "real" Barbies alluring, annoying, controversial, interesting, glamorous, bamboozling, scintillating and scurrilous, will continue. Surely, at the least women will battle these two competing impulses: one impulse to trend closer to that beauty image of the slender, large breasted, tiny waisted, stunning-looking woman; and second, to rebel against such an image because it is demeaning, nullifying and power sapping. 

Should we care about such warring impulses to acknowledge they are in us? Both men and women should care. The more we standardize a woman's beauty as slender, tiny waisted and large breasted, without bones showing, etc, the more we belittle and bludgeon women with an unattainable illusion. The more we give in to surgery and enhancements, the more we undermine our authority, power and voice. It is as if we are saying we want to be like "dolls." It is a new Stepford Wives paradigm that should have been eliminated but continues to  propel itself up from our collective unconscious, surfacing like raw sewage to pollute the crystal clear water of emotional balance. When women objectify themselves, they dehumanize and self-enslave. Nullifying the perfection that is deep within, they don't release their capabilities, brilliance or talents.

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Article Author: Carole Di Tosti.

Carole Di Tosti, Ph.D. is a published writer, novelist and poet. She writes for Blogcritics. She authors three blogs: 1) http://www.thefatandtheskinnyonwellness.com/ 2) http://www.achristianapologistssonnets.com/ 3) http://caroleditosti.com/ …

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